Comments on: Sexting: From Concern to Action http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/sexting-from-concern-to-action Just another WordPress weblog Mon, 11 Jan 2010 19:25:02 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.3 By: Sheree http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/sexting-from-concern-to-action/comment-page-1#comment-1570 Sheree Mon, 11 Jan 2010 19:25:02 +0000 http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/?p=441#comment-1570 It is my responsibility as a parent to raise, nurture, train, educate, protect, prepare and communicate with my children. Parents have been doing it since the beginning of time. I appreciate the efforts that companies and councils make to make the task easier. Talk to your kids, build a report with them folks, build trust, let them know you love them and even if you don't like what they may be saying or doing you will always love them and be there to help without judgment or disappointment. Some might be amazed how easily my two eldest will show me their texts, pics and what have you. Talk to the children in your life about this stuff before it happens to them. Get to know their friends and care about the whole lot of them like they are your own. Be a supportive adult figure to any child involved in your life and open to their ideas and problems. Be a good neighbor and active citizen. Give the children in your life your time, wisdom and example. Teach them their own value and hold to keep that intact. Perhaps if more of us did these things, so many Americans would not have to ask companies and politicians to help us violate the civil rights of our children because we are afraid that "someone" is going to hurt them. Perhaps then we will be able to trust their judgment, their friends and our neighborhoods more It is my responsibility as a parent to raise, nurture, train, educate, protect, prepare and communicate with my children. Parents have been doing it since the beginning of time. I appreciate the efforts that companies and councils make to make the task easier. Talk to your kids, build a report with them folks, build trust, let them know you love them and even if you don’t like what they may be saying or doing you will always love them and be there to help without judgment or disappointment.

Some might be amazed how easily my two eldest will show me their texts, pics and what have you.

Talk to the children in your life about this stuff before it happens to them. Get to know their friends and care about the whole lot of them like they are your own. Be a supportive adult figure to any child involved in your life and open to their ideas and problems. Be a good neighbor and active citizen. Give the children in your life your time, wisdom and example. Teach them their own value and hold to keep that intact.

Perhaps if more of us did these things, so many Americans would not have to ask companies and politicians to help us violate the civil rights of our children because we are afraid that “someone” is going to hurt them. Perhaps then we will be able to trust their judgment, their friends and our neighborhoods more

]]> By: A Parent http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/sexting-from-concern-to-action/comment-page-1#comment-1569 A Parent Mon, 11 Jan 2010 19:08:52 +0000 http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/?p=441#comment-1569 This conversation has been going on for three months an there has been nothing new. The children and pedophiles want their rights, and parents want to protect their children. Basically if Verizon would provide a service to make all texts and pictures available to whomever is paying the bill any parent would sign any waver in blood, and pay any price. No price is too high to protect our children. This conversation has been going on for three months an there has been nothing new.

The children and pedophiles want their rights, and parents want to protect their children.

Basically if Verizon would provide a service to make all texts and pictures available to whomever is paying the bill any parent would sign any waver in blood, and pay any price. No price is too high to protect our children.

]]> By: James http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/sexting-from-concern-to-action/comment-page-1#comment-1464 James Sat, 09 Jan 2010 19:32:03 +0000 http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/?p=441#comment-1464 I agree with all the parents that think they should be able to view their kids texts. They are children and not yet mature enough to know what is right and wrong. Even if we don't veiw their texts, just having them know that we can would make a big difference in how they use the texting. We basically got a phone for our kids, so that we could keep tabs on them more easily, but not so they could text to anyone on anything they wanted. I agree with all the parents that think they should be able to view their kids texts. They are children and not yet mature enough to know what is right and wrong. Even if we don’t veiw their texts, just having them know that we can would make a big difference in how they use the texting. We basically got a phone for our kids, so that we could keep tabs on them more easily, but not so they could text to anyone on anything they wanted.

]]> By: Jennie http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/sexting-from-concern-to-action/comment-page-1#comment-1419 Jennie Fri, 08 Jan 2010 17:13:34 +0000 http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/?p=441#comment-1419 Caleb, you're obviously young. Please look up the word "morally." If you want to talk morals then it would be the complete opposite of what you said. Privacy has nothing to do with morals. Privacy is a write among adults and a privilege among children, i.e. 18 or younger. I don't understand why children seem to think that their privacy is a right. Perhaps if they were paying rent, utilities, for the phone itself, etc. then yes it would be a right, but until then it is right of the parent to monitor if they wish. What is moral is protecting our children today. It is way to easy for predators to become involved with children and take advantage of them. I don't read my daughter's texts; however, if I find my child acting strangely or come across something that sends up red flags I would like access to those texts in order to protect her. My daughter is fairly honest with me. She's told me about pics that boys have sent her of certain body parts. Any more there are girls who's pics get passes around virally only to make them commit suicide. There are monsters who are predatory and before you know it have lured the child into a situation that they can not escape. One you have your own children you will understand; all of you. But until then, don't question why a good parent wants to protect their child. In addition to the violation of privacy, the Constitution gives a person the right to privacy in their own home. It doesn't stipulate a child's privacy in their own bedroom. You want a right to privacy...get your own place. Caleb, you’re obviously young. Please look up the word “morally.” If you want to talk morals then it would be the complete opposite of what you said. Privacy has nothing to do with morals. Privacy is a write among adults and a privilege among children, i.e. 18 or younger. I don’t understand why children seem to think that their privacy is a right. Perhaps if they were paying rent, utilities, for the phone itself, etc. then yes it would be a right, but until then it is right of the parent to monitor if they wish. What is moral is protecting our children today. It is way to easy for predators to become involved with children and take advantage of them. I don’t read my daughter’s texts; however, if I find my child acting strangely or come across something that sends up red flags I would like access to those texts in order to protect her. My daughter is fairly honest with me. She’s told me about pics that boys have sent her of certain body parts. Any more there are girls who’s pics get passes around virally only to make them commit suicide. There are monsters who are predatory and before you know it have lured the child into a situation that they can not escape. One you have your own children you will understand; all of you. But until then, don’t question why a good parent wants to protect their child. In addition to the violation of privacy, the Constitution gives a person the right to privacy in their own home. It doesn’t stipulate a child’s privacy in their own bedroom. You want a right to privacy…get your own place.

]]> By: ShawnMarie http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/sexting-from-concern-to-action/comment-page-1#comment-1357 ShawnMarie Thu, 07 Jan 2010 16:39:00 +0000 http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/?p=441#comment-1357 Caleb how many kids do you have? I have 4 girls ages 7-17. Before having personal computers kids read books and wrote to each other. I read the same notes written and was able to be more in the loop. I honestly don't see how you feel it's "morally wrong". Kids are kids and have no rights to that sort of privacy. You leave a kid alone and you're bound to find yourself some trouble. This digital age is a mixed blessing. A good parent is not only in good communication with their kids, they are informed. Every kid makes choices and mistakes. It's our job as parents to oversee them and I can clearly see that you must have run amuck or had seriously liberal parents. Joe mentions kids should have privacy? Well, you know what... even if I had tenants I still have the right to know what's going on in MY house. I pay these bills... I am the one who would be held liable and legally responsible for any untoward activities. Yes, we need to know what our kids are doing, in this technological age. Jenny posts about hating her parents for taking away her phone. Seriously! When they pay the bills...they can buy their own phones n phone plans. Until then...anyone on my network be it pc, mac, or phone/text... is subject to my review of any/all places visited and things texted. An uninformed parent is a very bad thing. should this be a default feature? Perhaps verizon can set up a separate plan. Adding a new line to your plan .... vs ... adding a line for your kids...with option of parental control. It could be that simple. Caleb how many kids do you have? I have 4 girls ages 7-17. Before having personal computers kids read books and wrote to each other. I read the same notes written and was able to be more in the loop. I honestly don’t see how you feel it’s “morally wrong”. Kids are kids and have no rights to that sort of privacy. You leave a kid alone and you’re bound to find yourself some trouble. This digital age is a mixed blessing. A good parent is not only in good communication with their kids, they are informed. Every kid makes choices and mistakes. It’s our job as parents to oversee them and I can clearly see that you must have run amuck or had seriously liberal parents.

Joe mentions kids should have privacy? Well, you know what… even if I had tenants I still have the right to know what’s going on in MY house. I pay these bills… I am the one who would be held liable and legally responsible for any untoward activities.

Yes, we need to know what our kids are doing, in this technological age.

Jenny posts about hating her parents for taking away her phone. Seriously! When they pay the bills…they can buy their own phones n phone plans. Until then…anyone on my network be it pc, mac, or phone/text… is subject to my review of any/all places visited and things texted. An uninformed parent is a very bad thing.

should this be a default feature? Perhaps verizon can set up a separate plan. Adding a new line to your plan …. vs … adding a line for your kids…with option of parental control. It could be that simple.

]]> By: ShawnMarie http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/sexting-from-concern-to-action/comment-page-1#comment-1355 ShawnMarie Thu, 07 Jan 2010 16:30:14 +0000 http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/?p=441#comment-1355 There is already one phone network that allows one to view online actual messages sent via text. I think that all networks should get on the wagon with this as it helps parents monitor potential unsafe behaviour and nip it in the bud. Most kids will erase the messages from their phones so being able to view online actual messages would be seriously beneficial. This would also help for parents to set parental controls on internet...and be able to view any and ALL sites visited by a administrator control... allowing you to bypass a password... for example step daughter lives on the site myspace... I want to know what she is doing on there..but she's password protected it - a standard thing I know... but we had the ability to slide in on the pc after she'd walked away and viewed some email of her regarding drinking and pot. I want to.. as a parent and administrator be able to see the entire content of all messages under my computers and phones. This is the only way I can continue to keep my kids safe. There is already one phone network that allows one to view online actual messages sent via text. I think that all networks should get on the wagon with this as it helps parents monitor potential unsafe behaviour and nip it in the bud. Most kids will erase the messages from their phones so being able to view online actual messages would be seriously beneficial. This would also help for parents to set parental controls on internet…and be able to view any and ALL sites visited by a administrator control… allowing you to bypass a password… for example step daughter lives on the site myspace… I want to know what she is doing on there..but she’s password protected it – a standard thing I know… but we had the ability to slide in on the pc after she’d walked away and viewed some email of her regarding drinking and pot. I want to.. as a parent and administrator be able to see the entire content of all messages under my computers and phones. This is the only way I can continue to keep my kids safe.

]]> By: Caleb Godwin http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/sexting-from-concern-to-action/comment-page-1#comment-1240 Caleb Godwin Sun, 03 Jan 2010 01:05:40 +0000 http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/?p=441#comment-1240 In response to your messages about "Parents should be able to view anything their kids do", I believe that it is morally wrong. It is a violation of their privacy, and they should be left alone. There are programs you can install on phones that send you a copy of every text. But, this should not be a default feature in Verizon. In response to your messages about “Parents should be able to view anything their kids do”, I believe that it is morally wrong. It is a violation of their privacy, and they should be left alone. There are programs you can install on phones that send you a copy of every text. But, this should not be a default feature in Verizon.

]]> By: qtrcowpony http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/sexting-from-concern-to-action/comment-page-1#comment-1236 qtrcowpony Sat, 02 Jan 2010 20:10:02 +0000 http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/?p=441#comment-1236 I agree. The only way, as parents, to monitor this is to have a way to track and see all messages, incoming and outgoing. I think that a service provided by the carrier, similar to the family locator, would be a wonderful solution. Parents still need to be parents and be diligent about checking. But teens are smart and make sure they delete anything questionable in most cases. Parents need to be able to get a "heads up" in a timely manner to avoid a costly mistake! By being able to check messages anytime, they could see if something needs to be derailed before it happens! I agree. The only way, as parents, to monitor this is to have a way to track and see all messages, incoming and outgoing. I think that a service provided by the carrier, similar to the family locator, would be a wonderful solution. Parents still need to be parents and be diligent about checking. But teens are smart and make sure they delete anything questionable in most cases. Parents need to be able to get a “heads up” in a timely manner to avoid a costly mistake! By being able to check messages anytime, they could see if something needs to be derailed before it happens!

]]> By: Kimberly Franz http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/sexting-from-concern-to-action/comment-page-1#comment-1223 Kimberly Franz Fri, 01 Jan 2010 08:59:36 +0000 http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/?p=441#comment-1223 I want to add, maybe this would help teach kids some of what is lacking in a lot of kids today. Values, respect, responsibility, that the things they do & say have consequences. Sometimes they don't see them right away or maybe even something like having to be a reg. sex offender. They may do something no so bright, something small & you can catch it right then. Wouldn't you rather catch that small stupid thing that they probably didn't fully comprehend maybe someone else even sent from their phone, instead of having to hire a lawyer to fight them having to be registered as a sex offender??? My kids privacy isn't worth that! But maybe the person who wrote about giving them their privacy has that absolutly perfect kids who will not/has not ever let someone else use their phone truely has nothing to worry about. I love my kids unconditionally, but they are just that kids. They are hard wired to do stupid things, we are there to protect them! Thats all I want the chance to do as much as I can whenever I can-thats my job as the mom. I want to add, maybe this would help teach kids some of what is lacking in a lot of kids today. Values, respect, responsibility, that the things they do & say have consequences. Sometimes they don’t see them right away or maybe even something like having to be a reg. sex offender. They may do something no so bright, something small & you can catch it right then. Wouldn’t you rather catch that small stupid thing that they probably didn’t fully comprehend maybe someone else even sent from their phone, instead of having to hire a lawyer to fight them having to be registered as a sex offender??? My kids privacy isn’t worth that! But maybe the person who wrote about giving them their privacy has that absolutly perfect kids who will not/has not ever let someone else use their phone truely has nothing to worry about. I love my kids unconditionally, but they are just that kids. They are hard wired to do stupid things, we are there to protect them! Thats all I want the chance to do as much as I can whenever I can-thats my job as the mom.

]]> By: Kimberly Franz http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/sexting-from-concern-to-action/comment-page-1#comment-1222 Kimberly Franz Fri, 01 Jan 2010 08:41:32 +0000 http://parentalcontrolcenter.com/?p=441#comment-1222 I completly agree! We NEED to know more, be more involved. You are the only people who can seem to do this for us & NOBODY wants to help!!! As parents we are responsible for what they do/say online & texts etc. but yet we are unable to without a court order to have the chance to read anything our children get or send via cell phones. As parents I would think you would want the same things for you & your children??. Being a teen is not what it was when I was there & it wasn't that long ago. They hear,learn, say & do so much. If we had the ability to view these things it would help some of the "out of sight out of mind" issues. We aren't asking to be nosey or invasive we just want to be good parents. Parents are told we should be more "on top" of things so they don't happen, help us. Help us get what we pay for, to have access to our plan. We can access so much with our phones with your website, which is great. However, I think it would be great to just be able to view this aswell. HELP US PROTECT OUR KIDS, PLEASE!!! I completly agree! We NEED to know more, be more involved. You are the only people who can seem to do this for us & NOBODY wants to help!!! As parents we are responsible for what they do/say online & texts etc. but yet we are unable to without a court order to have the chance to read anything our children get or send via cell phones. As parents I would think you would want the same things for you & your children??. Being a teen is not what it was when I was there & it wasn’t that long ago. They hear,learn, say & do so much. If we had the ability to view these things it would help some of the “out of sight out of mind” issues. We aren’t asking to be nosey or invasive we just want to be good parents. Parents are told we should be more “on top” of things so they don’t happen, help us. Help us get what we pay for, to have access to our plan. We can access so much with our phones with your website, which is great. However, I think it would be great to just be able to view this aswell. HELP US PROTECT OUR KIDS, PLEASE!!!

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